Jews are among the most highly educated minorities in America. More than half of all Jewish adults (61 percent of men and 50 percent of women) have received a college degree, and a quarter (29 percent of men and 21 percent of women) have earned a graduate degree. Jews are almost twice as likely to hold a college degree than Americans generally and four times as likely to hold a graduate degree.The rate of Jewish men holding a college degree is a little over twenty percent higher than that of Jewish women, and the rate of Jewish men holding advanced degrees compared to Jewish women is even higher than that. Yet we are still expected to believe that despite such a disparity there that is clearly in favor of Jewish men, that the real reason that Jewish men tend to be skiddish today about marrying Jewish women is because they are "boring" and "intimidated by Jewish women." Could it possibly be that Jewish men are instead increasingly just not interested in putting up with the behavior of much of the female segment of the Jewish population (as alluded to in the article at least once)?
Unfortunately, their academic and professional success decreases their dating pool since, as Cohen says, "men want to 'marry down' and women want to 'marry up.'"
Although no one is advocating that women avoid graduate school, Dr. Michael J. Salamon, a psychologist and the author of The Shidduch Crisis: Causes and Cures, says "the problem [in the Jewish dating scene] is that women are overeducated and find the men boring. The men are intimidated. And the women are not getting what they want."
Nah... that couldn't possibly be it! As we all know, the male ego is fatally fragile the moment it comes into contact with even the most modest female accomplishments. Why, if a woman has accomplished more than brushing her teeth, putting on her clothes and being able to roughly carry on an intelligible conversation, it sends men of every sort running to the hills for the soft, non-confrontational, plasticy embrace of blow up dolls, video games, porn, maxim, bachelor pads and all that.
The moral of this story is that if you are going to regurgitate the old talking points, at least have the good sense to not do so while presenting numbers that invalidate the talking points after no more than a moment's contemplation.
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I guess they didn't even consider the idea that maybe Jewish men just don't like Jewish women.
Look up some rich and famous American Jewish men and see how many are married to Jewish women. Some interesting cases are those men whose first marriage was to a Jewish woman, but later marriages were to non-Jews. Steven Spielberg and Woody Allen come to mind. I'm guessing family pressure played a part in those first marriages.
Jewish women may be outnumbered by men when it comes to degrees, but the most eligible Jewish men seem to prefer Gentiles. I think Jewish women would be wise to reevaluate the methods they use to attract men.
I guess they didn't even consider the idea that maybe Jewish men just don't like Jewish women.
I spoke too soon; after reading the article at the link, it seems they did consider it:
The responses of Jewish men were markedly different. They were likely to describe the typical Jewish woman as "talking too much," "having to have an opinion about everything," "obsessed with food," "overweight" and "materialistic."
Mr. Katz hits the nail on the head:
"If Jewish men find Jewish women to be difficult, then perhaps the answer for the women is to date men who are themselves easier," Katz says. "We're a bright people, a questioning people, but a neurotic, complaining and negative people. Would you want to be around that? We'd be well served to at least get aware of that [quality] and be responsible for it, and not be too surprised if others aren't responding well to it. We have a lot of mishegas. It's no wonder we don't want to marry each other. We're very lucky when we find someone who loves us."